Creating Space for Grief


Today we are recording in Rockefeller Center a long way from my Brooklyn closet. I have my dear friend Carrie Gracey Lloyd on the podcast today! She has a podcast called “The Carrie On…” that you can check it out here. In this episode, we chat about grief, how to walk through it, how it can challenge your faith, and the importance of creating space for your grief.

On Grief

“I love redemption stories, but if we don’t look at the grief, we don’t know where the lord is going to show up.” 

·      I have been walking through a lot of grief this year and Carrie’s podcast episodes on grief have helped me feel so seen and understood.

·      Carrie shares her experience with grief from losing family and friends from a young age.

·      We chat about the unhealthy ways we often cope with grief because it often feels our culture doesn’t allow us to grieve.

Creating Space for Grief

·      She outlines her process of following a “grieving plan,” where she actually takes time out of her day to process, reflect, and work through her pain and grief.

·      “I’ve sometimes felt God weep with me.”

·      Just as children allow themselves to cry and feel, we need to allow ourselves to grieve.

·      Carrie describes the relief and release she felt after grieving.


Grief and Faith

·      People tend to question their faith when they are grieving.

·      “I think it’s alright to ask those questions as long as we don’t stay there for too long because that therefore meant that our belief in God was based on circumstances.”

The Other Side of Grief

·      We have to give ourselves permission to move forward.

·      “The heart holds onto grief until you actually process it.”

·      The process of healthy grieving will become quicker the more you go through it.

Keep up with Carrie: at her website, her podcast, her book, her other book, and on Instagram.

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The Difference Between Diet Food and Real Food (And Why You Should Care)


Today, I have my sweet friend Sarah Adler on the podcast. She is a nutrition coach, healthy lifestyle expert, food blogger, and owner of Simply Real Health. I’ve been getting so many questions on Instagram about meal prep, cooking for one, and best things to have in your pantry. I know everyone is always stressing about how little time you have to cook or how expensive it is to prepare meals. I am totally not an expert on that stuff, so Sarah is here to share her knowledge! I learned so much from her and I can’t wait for you guys to hear her wisdom.

Life Lessons Meet Food

·       “If you are intentional about it, it doesn’t have to be something that is stressful. Sometimes you just need a system. A little bit of structure can go a long way.”

·      What is Real food? Real food is food from the earth that has existed since the beginning of time. (Not Cheetos.)

·      You want to target the simplest version of food. Food with one ingredient or ingredients that a five-year-old can recognize.

·      “If you’re feeding and nourishing yourself well, that sets the foundation for being able to have a very productive and intentional life.”

Personal Food Journey

·      Sarah always remembered loving going to the grocery store and being healthy.

·      “It became this thing I was so obsessed with. I would read fitness magazines for fun.”

·      Looking back, she recognizes that her obsession was what is now called “Orthorexia.”

·      She almost backed out of a trip to Italy because of fear of not having food options. She did go, and she remembers having an epiphany when she saw two women eating out.

·      “The food was just the thing that brought them together. They were so much more about connecting and being together.”

·      “Maybe there’s another way that’s not as obsessive. There’s another way to live that has more joy and celebration to it.”

·      From there, she learned to isolate the difference between diet food (marketed for fad diets and losing weight) and real food (natural and actually healthful).

Assessing Your Food

·      The number one question to ask in regard to food: Is it real or not real?

·      “If it’s real, your body can digest it.” Our bodies are not meant to digest food you can’t pronounce or recognize.

·      “Are you being kind to your body?”

·      The next important thing is your mindset: Focus on serving your body, not punishing it.

·      There is a direct connection between what you eat and how you feel.

Evaluating the “Sexy” Diet Trends 

·      Keto, paleo, anything that cuts out an entire category of food is a red flag.

·      However, some people need more meat, some people can’t do dairy, etc.

·      “Everybody does better with real food, but everybody has different intricacies within that.”

·      Start with real food, then upgrade it to simplify and honor your body and what it needs. Find what works for you!

·      Pay attention to your body—quick fixes do not work.

·      Find what food you thrive with. It’s not one size fits all—that’s the problem with diets.

·      Trendy diets bring about mental and emotional confusion.

On Gluten, Organic Food, and Seasonal Produce

·      It’s not that gluten is bad, it’s that it is overproduced and overconsumed. It comes down to quality and sourcing. The same goes for dairy.

·      Tune into your body—how do I feel after eating something?

·      If your body is okay with gluten, make sure you are getting the best quality of it.

·      Organic is expensive—but always invest in organic products that come from animals.

·      “If you’re ingesting antibiotics, even secondhand, that affects our own hormones too.”

·      Focus on seasonal produce—it’s usually the cheapest stuff on sale. Here are some graphics that will help you learn what is seasonal on Pinterest.

·      Learn basic techniques, like making a soup, and then everything else is interchangeable.

Cooking for One 

1. Get a functional set of pantry staples (quinoa, cans of tomatoes, beans, bag of frozen veggies, grass-fed butter, organic chicken sausage, brown rice pasta)

2. Buy versatile ingredients that can be used at least five different ways (kale, bell peppers, potatoes, sweet potatoes) and pair them with a pantry staple. They keep a long time and can be put in smoothies, soups, salads, etc.

3. Make recipes that can be built upon when you have it for leftovers the next day.

4. “You can do a lot with not very much hassle, stress, chopping, or ingredients.”

5. For busy people (who like one pot meals): insta-pots are a game changer! It does require planning ahead, though.

Head over to Simplyrealhealth.com to see her resources and courses! Sarah has a new book coming out on November 19th called Simply Real Eating. It’s her second cookbook (the first was Simply Real Health).

“Your body deserves a little bit of love and attention.”

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Discernment: What it is and Practical Tools to Use it


Mike Maeshiro calls himself a “Serial entrepreneur.” He runs several businesses. He travels and speaks on the gift of discernment and spiritual intelligence. He believes discernment is something people don’t talk about enough, so we chat about it in this episode. We also talk about entrepreneurship, and discerning when is the right time to make your side hustle your main hustle.

What is Discernment?

  • He grew up in the church, was a “nice, agreeable Christian boy.” However, he was lying all the time—pretending he wasn’t aware of these spiritual atmospheres around him.

  • “I started opposing the disfunction in my relationships.”

The Purpose of Discernment

  • Discernment exposes darkness in someone’s individual life or corporately.

  • It also provides accountability and sets a standard in community.

  • Discernment shows us the heart behind actions are more important than the actions themselves.

  • “My response is not going to be based on the action, it’s going to be based on where it is coming from in the spirit.”

How to Step Into Discernment


  • He has always been a great employee and student but he feels unrest in those situations. He needs to be innovating.

  • When you say yes to wealth, you start having the eyes to see it.

  • He recalls the moment he realized his side hustles brought in enough money for him to quit his full time job.

Side Hustle to Main Hustle

  • Financial intelligence is important in this sort of risk-taking.

  • “You are the most powerful asset you will ever have access to.”

  • “You will be in every season of your life. Invest in who you are.”

  • The number one thing to ask yourself to discern if you’re ready to go full-time into your side hustle: Can I bet on me?

How Can We Make This Not Woo-Woo?

  • We constantly need to reimagine what success means to us.

  • Poverty was a high value in the early church. “God is not broke.”

  • “What you say yes to in your life is what you’re going to produce. It’s a byproduct of an ecosystem you have said yes to in your own being.”

  • We have to get rid of these false beliefs about God and us when it comes to lack and poverty and control.

  • “There’s more than enough! That’s the nature of the kingdom we are of.”

Further Reading for Entrepreneurs

Head over to MikeMaeshiro.com to see his resources, coaching services, and all the things. He is also on Instagram at @mikemaeshiro and YouTube at Mike Maeshiro. He also has a podcast called Confessions of a Reformer about all the things.


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