Fashion Week for the Real World

February 27, 2015


When Kat and I first sat down to talk about turning The Refined Woman into it’s own thing, I remember wondering how it would work when Aaron and I decided to start a family. I worried that I would no longer have time to invest here, or that even worse, I wouldn’t be passionate about it any more.

The opposite happened. The passion to continue to work at this thing has only increased. Something about having a child really helps put your work into perspective – now that she’s in our world I only want to spend time doing what makes me come alive, what makes me happy, what pushes me further down the path of finding my true calling and gifting.

Fast forward to Fashion Week February 2015. After flying 6 hours solo with my 11 month old wild child, I can’t sleep. I’m exhausted to the bone but I’m filled with anxiety and excitement. My husband arrives after his red eye the next morning in New York, we high five at our Airbnb and Kat and I head out to the Kate Spade presentation. The next day I was able to attend the Mara Hoffman runway show as well. Getting there was brutal, I wish I had gone to more shows, but I was there. The entire battle was just showing up.

I have to find a way to celebrate that I made it there, that I didn’t let my tiredness or my fear of flying with my baby (which was pretty real) keep me from going and doing it.

I continually struggle with the desire to not just show up but to show up and want to kick butt. Sometimes, after you arrive at your destination, your baby gets a fever. It’s 10 degrees out. You can’t sleep two nights in a row. Your Uber lands at the wrong address then cancels on you completely. But dammit I SHOWED UP. And I even found a way to enjoy some chicken and waffles.

There will be years I’m able to go to more shows, and I’ll find a new appreciation for the years of struggle. I’m constantly striving to appreciate the reality of my here and now – the little moments in between to savor. I’m constantly weighing the benefits and rewards of everything I do as a mom now, I’m always judging the decisions I make in a new way, and it’s not always healthy. What I want to remember that even though this was a hard trip for me in a lot of ways, there were moments that I wouldn’t trade for anything. I want to remember that I showed up. That I fought for this dream. That I still have fight left in me. That I’m still here.

That’s what counts. I’m still showing up. Even when it’s hard.

And hey, I have photos to prove it.

Fist pump.




All photos by Kat Harris.



ps. some of the stuff I’m wearing you can find here. it feels weird to put this at the end of a real talk post but the sweater is on super sale so I feel like it’s pretty much my duty to still add it.

How to Dress Your Bridesmaids

February 22, 2015


(View full post on Darling Magazine.)

So he finally popped the question, and it’s only been a few weeks and you’re already in full Wedding Planning mode!  For those of you who aren’t married or are unfamiliar with the wedding world, wedding planning is almost a full-time job.  It can be extremely overwhelming when you consider:  this will probably be the biggest party you’ll ever throw and everyone has their opinion to add as to how it should happen, where it should happen, how much money should or shouldn’t be spent, etc.  Not to mention the endless traditional expectations of hosting a wedding.

Now I should mention that I am single, but I have been a bridesmaid 15 times, and I have been a wedding photographer for 6 years.  So it’s safe to say I have been around the block a few times!

Before you curl up in a corner and cry (please don’t do that), be encouraged by this:  it is 2015 and this is your wedding!  You get to create a wedding that first and foremost reflects the love of you and your partner.  Let yourself off the hook in regards to trying to please everyone, because it is simply not possible.  The quicker you can do that the quicker you can enjoy this process!

There are a lot of things we could talk about, but let’s start with Bridesmaid Dresses!  I cannot tell you how many of my brides have spent endless hours looking for that perfect shade in that perfect silhouette that will look good on 8 different women.

Here’s the secret:  there typically is not one color or one silhouette that will look good on everyone.  Let go of the old tradition, and embrace the new tradition of choosing a color palette and allowing your bridesmaids to choose a dress that best suits their bodies.



Why is this a good idea?

  • This will save so much time.  It can be hard to let go of control with your wedding, because every detail can seem like such a huge deal.  From someone who has photographed hundreds of weddings, I can promise you that no one really remembers what the bridesmaids wear, let alone what color their fingernails are, or whether or not they have matching shoes.  Getting hung up on details like this can really steal the joy from the process of wedding planning.  It is ok to let go,and trust your closest friends to choose dresses that not only flatter their figures, but that you will love as well. There are even multiple gown designers that offer beautiful dresses in the same color palette in different silhouettes.  Some of my favorite are:  Adrianna Papell and Amsale.
  • Gone are the days when you wear a purse to match your shoes (who does that anymore).  You can actually create an effortlessly cohesive look with different styles of gowns.  Take for example the wedding below.  My best friend just got married, and she sent us all paint swatches with a color palette, and said to pick a long gown in the ‘Champagne’ color family, and have it be floor length.  Though all of our dresses our different they came together flawlessly, and at the end of the day most of us truly are able to recycle and wear the dress again for another event.
  • Along with the above comment allowing your bridesmaids to choose a dress that best suits their body is a great way to honor their budget.  Let’s face it as amazing as it is to be asked to be in your best friends wedding; it also can be very expensive.  (A few years ago, I spent over $2,500 on being in weddings!).  As friends it is our joy to throw showers, and give the bride the experience she desires and deserves.  However, It can be hard to spend several hundred dollars on a dress that you don’t look good in, and will never wear again, and that you probably cannot resell.  One of the wonderful things about giving a color palette to your bridesmaids is that they are much more likely to find a dress that they actually really love and will be able to wear again!


You’ve got the color palette, now how to choose the dress:

  • Before shopping set your budget.  Whether it’s $75 or $250, stick with your price range and don’t allow yourself to try on dresses above your price range.  What can happen is you try on the $500 dress that is way out of your price range, and then anything else that you try on in your price range will feel second rate.  Your overall experience will be disappointing.  (This tidbit came from a manager of the world famous wedding gown salon Kleinfelds)  The employees will not allow you to even try on a dress outside of your price range for this very reason!
  • Know your body.  This may take some research. For a general rule of thumb if you are well endowed stay away from strapless dresses (the last thing you want is to be pulling up your dress all night).  A great alternative is a halter or one strap dress.  For athletic figures A-line and empire waists.  For an hourglass shape a wrap dress accentuates your curves.  Nordstrom has a great online resource for body types HERE.  Most importantly make sure that you feel beautiful in the dress.  If it’s a little snug, or no matter how many people say it looks great if you don’t feel great in the dress it doesn’t matter.
  • Try try try again.  Make an appointment at a store, and ask for a personal shopper.  Stores like JCrewNordstrom, and even Anthropologie will set aside dresses in your color palette if you call ahead, and they’ll even help accessorize your look.  Often times the dress we like best on the rack isn’t what we end up going with.  It can be that unexpected dress on the rack that you don’t really like that sometimes ends up being the winner!  Be open minded, and try on lots of dresses!  That way in the process you can find what styles look best on you so you’ll be better prepared next time!



All in all remember it is ok to let go of some traditions.  Figure out what is important to you and your fiancé, and be open and flexible with other aspects of your wedding and trust your bridesmaids that they will look amazing on your special day!



All photos by:  Kayla Adams

Why I go to Fashion Week

February 20, 2015




See the full article on Darling Magazine.

February New York Fashion Week is not for the faint of heart. For one it the high this week in New York City hovered between 5 and 15 degrees, which means the only place I want to be is at home in my yoga pants and uggs sipping on hot tea.

But Fashion Week brings out the crazy, the committed, the creative, and safe to say stubborn folks of this world.



It’s 10 degrees outside, and I am headed to my first show for this season’s New York Fashion Week. Being that it’s disgustingly cold outside the last thing I want to do is leave my warm apartment. But my love of creativity and fashion pushes me fervently out the door.

Although the streets are filled with black ice, and I would be much safer and warmer in snow boots and my puffer jacket, I tentatively walk through the streets in my 3 inch heels, leather pants, and cute (but not warm) jacket. Three quarters of a miles walk and two trains later I arrive to Milk Studio to sign in to see the Marissa Webb show.
The show starts at 3:00p.m. and it’s 2:45p.m. Shows never start on time, and there are always lines to get in so I try not to show up too early. Even so I head into the line, and wait for 30 minutes. The line is packed with fashionable ladies wearing ridiculous clothes considering we are in the land of the arctic tundra at the moment. Hardly anyone is talking. Most girls are on their phones ferociously scrolling through instagram feeds or ‘pretending’ to write a very important email. I stand there with a smile and a hello for anyone who looks up, and am wondering why on earth we are all waiting in this line. Is it even worth it?
Finally at 3:15p.m. they let us climb several flights of stairs before being checked again to ensure we have our tickets, and are ushered to our seats.
The runway is covered in plastic, and there is a swirl of energy throughout the room. The photographers pit is exploding with photographers, and ladies file in, give cheek kisses to friends, and anxiously find their seats, and then we all just wait.
You know the show is about to start when security peels the plastic off of the perfectly white runway (and completely slippery I might add. I always feel so scared for the models because I know I would fall flat on my face tromping down that runway in stiletto heels).
The lights go black, and someone from the pit yells for the ladies on the front row to uncross their legs. This happens at every show, because if legs are crossed then pointy heels are on the edges of all the photographers pictures. (I know because I’ve shot runway over a dozen times and have had the pleasure of photo-shopping out those expensive yet very annoying shoes).
All of a sudden the stage lights go up, music blasts, and the first model walks down the runway.
It’s magical and fast paced.
The camera shutters click rhythmically and like it’s a choreographed dance with each new look bloggers and editors hold up their phones to try and get a shot for instagram.
Most of the time in less than ten minutes the show is over, and before you can take a breathe the room is in chaos again, and everyone runs out like they’re escaping a fire to catch the next show.
I sit in my seat quietly packing up my camera while there is a hurricane of movement around me, and even though I have been apart of Fashion Week for 6 years now I wonder is the madness worth it?
Why does this matter?
Why do I still come back season after season?



And I realize that I don’t come because of the shows. I come because of what the shows represent.
They represent commitment. They reveal no matter if the designer feels uninspired, unmotivated, tired, frustrated her discipline to create.
Season after season the creative creates.
These designers, their teams, hair and make-up artists, photographers, models, and stylists are some of the most hard working people I have encountered.
They are out of their mind committed to creating art with persistence and excellence.
And those people are inspiring. Those are the types of people I want to be around.
You see the big moment isn’t the show; it’s the midnight runs to the fabric store, the last minute manicure for the model that was late, it’s the sketches on the 7:00a.m. subway of a jacket for next season six months before the show.
Same with athletes and anyone really who is committed to excellence in their craft. The big moment for the Olympian really isn’t the gold medal; it’s the 5:00a.m. workouts, the eating healthy when no one else around her is, it’s showing up and giving her all at practice when the only place she wants to be is in bed.
So fashion week for me is so much more than fashion. It’s a twice a year reminder of what it looks like to create day in and day out. It challenges me to hone in on my craft.
To be excellent is to be disciplined and to intentionally moment by moment make movement towards my goals.
Because no one else is going to go do that for me.

Fashion Week matters to me because each person apart of the craziness, running around in below zero weather is committed like crazy to creating.
And creative people create with resolve and purpose and call forth excellence from anyone they come in contact with.
I don’t know about you, but I think those are the types of people that are going to do big things in their lives and in the world.
























All photos by me:  Kat Harris of:  Kate Spade | Alice + Olivia | Herve Leger

Beauty Is…Vision

February 11, 2015

Beauty Is…Vision |  How to Set Clear Goals for Yourself

I’ve been talking a lot about goal setting this 2015 + I’m so excited to be sharing our first video post for AOL! If you’re anything like me, then you’re a multi-tasker.  We are multi-faceted beings, which is amazing, but can also mean as women we are wearing a lot of hats at once.  From leader, to mogul, to mother, to wife, to sister, to daughter, to friend, to mentor, to you name it, and in each of those spheres in our lives there are a multitude of dreams and goals that we long to achieve and believe that we were destined to attain.  It is my firm belief that before you can make any movement in your life you need to know where you are going.

    1. Vision:  Simon Sinek says people don’t buy what you do, they buy why you do what you do.  There must be a deeper sense of purpose, an overarching theme that transcends your life.  This vision will act as a plumb line to all you do.  Once you know your vision for yourself and for the world, you can funnel all of your other goals, dreams, tasks, to-do’s through that lens.
      • For example:  My vision is to create a culture where women know that their worth, value, identity and beauty.  In all that I do, whether it’s photography, my blog, writing, speaking, sitting on the subway, talking to my banker, I want to fill the atmosphere with encouragement and empowerment to the people around me that they matter.  Now that I am clear on the deeper goal in my life; it acts as guidepost for everything else I’m involved in.
      • So take a few minutes (don’t worry I’ll be here when you get back) + journal about YOUR WHY.  Why do you what you do?  Looking back on your life 50 years from now, what legacy will you want to leave this world?  What message to you want to send to the next generation?
    2. Clarity:  Now that you know your point Z, let’s start getting specific.  A lot of times people know where they want to go, but because it seems so far away it seems unattainable.  We must lessen that gap, by creating daily goals to keep us in check.
      • Take 10 minutes and write down 10 goals you want to achieve + by when + for each goal write at least 10 specific goals underneath with deadlines.
    3. Accountability:  We were never meant to do life on our own.  My belief is that creativity begets creativity.  Intentionally I surround myself with other creatives with similar passion + with drive + amibition.  Seeing other people chase their dreams inspires me even more to chase mine. 
      • For example, every other week I meet with a group of creatives from 8:30-9:30a.m. and we talk about our goals from the time before, updates, set goals for the next week + then in-between meetings we encourage one another.  I cannot tell you how beneficial this has been not only for my business but so many other areas of my life.
    4. Acknowledge Fear.  What can happen when we start chasing our dreams is all of our fears and insecurities rise up to the surface screaming.  You’re not good enough.  You don’t have what it takes.  You’re a quitter.  Why would so-and-so hire you…you don’t have the portfolio.  Don’t pretend the fear isn’t there, acknowledge, say thank you for visiting, and move on.  It is my belief that the existence of fear + resistance in our lives when we are chasing our dreams acts as further proof that I am on the right track.  Dream chasing is vulnerable, of course you’re going to feel fearful at times, but we get the choice to not let it run our lives anymore.
    5. Just Keep Moving.  This may be the most important thing to remember + to keep doing.  You gotta keep taking one step forward.  It may seem like it’s just the tiniest baby step ever, but trust me a lot of little yes’s over a long period of time can create a tidal wave of movement in your life.  What distinguishes the committed creative from the apathetic is merely movement.  Be committed no matter what to make steps forward.  You’ll probably experience a lot of fear and resistance.

    Your dreams matter.

    Your voice in this world matters.

    You have talent and potential + a journey that no one else in this universe has.

    The world needs you.  We need each other.  Let’s do this!



Pretty in Pink

February 10, 2015

pink and grey, silver philip lim bag

pink cocoon coat // the refined woman

double braid // the refined woman

pink cocoon coat // the refined woman

pink cocoon coat // the refined woman

pink cocoon coat // the refined woman

pink cocoon coat // the refined woman

pretty in pink // the refined woman

I’ve never been big on pink. Until I had a baby girl and now the softest shades are starting to lure me in. I love this pink statement coat for winter and for transitioning into spring. Take the sweetness down a bit with some Freda Salvador booties.

I fell in love with Freda Salvador after shooting their space in San Francisco for Apartment 34. If you’re in the area check it out!

Many thanks to Melissa Hoffmann for my rad braid look and my pop of pink makeup. She’s the best.

Pizza + Wine | What a Girl Wants…

February 3, 2015


[Graphic by:  Jenna Kutcher]

I get back from LA on Monday, and he asks me out for Wednesday.  We’re going to a pizza place in Brooklyn, and evidently it’s one of the best places for pizza…or so he says.

For a few reasons I’m excited:

  1. I get to hang out with him.  #duh
  2. Ummm Pizza (I could eat it every day, but really I could).
  3. It’s like a real date + I can like get dressed up!

We’ve been seeing each other for a few weeks now and it’s been a week since we saw each other last.  The day after we hung out last week I went to LA for work for five days.

We texted throughout my trip, and as I headed to a client meeting I got a picture of him with my friend that introduced us.  They were having brunch on his terrace on what looked like the perfect New York City day.  I don’t know what was cuter, the fact that he was having people over for brunch on a Sunday, or that he was thinking of me and wanted to send me a picture.  (definitely the latter right?)

Over the past few weeks I’ve noticed something.  With other guys I would always wonder ‘will I hear from him’, ‘should I call him’, ‘what’s next’…

But there’s no pressure with him.  He likes me, and I like him, and I feel secure in that.  It’s a new feeling for me.  I know I’ll hear from him, I trust that he’ll make movement towards me.

He pursues, and I respond, and it makes me feel like such a woman.  No games; it’s freeing.

One thing I like about our time so far is that we met  when I was in workout clothes and no make-up, he’s seen me completely disheveled, and our last time hanging out we were working out.  He appreciates me for me, and not this “made-up” version of myself.

Still though, what girl doesn’t want to do her hair + make-up + wear her new sassy kimono wrap?

It’s 8:00, and we’re meeting at 8:30.  I should probably head out to go grab a bottle of wine; it’s BYOB.  It’s been raining most of the day, but I peer out the window and it looks dry.  I grab my purse and keys and run out the door.

(Note to self:  no matter what never leave your house without an umbrella in New York City…especially when you’re on your way to a date and especially when it’s been raining all day #rookiemistake)

After going to three different places I finally found a bottle of red wine, and there was definitely dust on the bottle.  I’m pretty sure it wasn’t the best wine in town.

Either way, wine in hand I walk to the restaurant.  When I’m two blocks away, it starts to rain.  And when I say rain, I mean RRRRRRRRAIN.  It is a downpour, and within 2.5 seconds every inch of me is sopping wet.  All I can do is laugh.  I mean really though.

I run to the restaurant, but it makes no difference at this point.  He’s waiting for me under the awning of the restaurant.

I am a sight to be seen I am sure.

I walk up to him, and dripping wet I give him a kiss and we both laugh at my unbelievable appearance.  Honestly though; it was like right out of a movie.  Before we were sat, I was ringing out my hair, and had to take off my kimono to wring all the water out.

For some reason I didn’t care; it was funny.  (I feel like God is determined to keep me humble throughout this whole process.)

Though it’s been a week since the last time we saw each other, we pick right back up.  We sat in a corner of the restaurant; it’s dark and candlelit and it felt really romantic. (Gosh who knew I was such a romantic?)

In between red wine and wood fired pizza, we talked about our lives, our families, traveling, and it flowed.

We laugh, we drink, we eat, and it felt good.

It’s easy to be with him.  It’s slow.  There’s no rush.

Two hours later I notice that we’re the last customers in the restaurant.  Our waitress is sitting in a corner counting her tips.  He grabs my hand, leans across the table and gives me a kiss.

It was perfect.**

He walks me home, it’s still drizzling, and kisses me good night.

“When can I see you again”, he says.

“Soon…” I say.  (wondering if he can hear me say in my head…tomorrow, and the next day, and the next day).



**[I want to stand on the table, and get everyone’s attention just to make sure they all saw that.  I mean hello guys…I’m with the cutest guy in here and he totally just kissed me.  Thankfully for all parties involved I contain myself].

big hat long hair don’t care

January 28, 2015


watch by the horse  // gemstone ring by erin jane designs / stacking rings by catbird nyc


photos by josh gruetzmacher

Let’s. DO. This.

January 26, 2015

KatHarris.RealSexintheCity.1Photo by:  Jessica Burke Hair + MU:  Melissa Hoffman

Today I’m so honored to be featured on Scarlet + Gold Shop’s Inspire Me Monday.  I’m talking about:  creating vision, chasing your dreams, getting specific + making 2015 your breakout year! Read the full article HERE + check out some of my thoughts below.  Love y’all, K

…My vision for myself and for the world is that young women would know their infinite value, worth, and beauty in Christ.  I want to live in a world where women of all ages, sizes, ethnicities, and social backgrounds know that they matter because of whose they are.

My identity, your identity, OUR identity is not defined by our careers, our relationship status, how many instagram followers we do or do not have, or if we finally fit into those pair of jeans that fit us 5 years ago (Lord knows I’d love to fit in those jeans!).  No, my identity is grounded in the reality that I was created by an infinitely creative, imaginative, and good God that loves me, chooses me, wants me, and says I am enough.

(Phew…can you tell this is something I am passionate about?  I’m about to start preachin’ here ladies!)

My vehicles for my vision are my wedding + lifestyle photography business, The Refined Woman, and sharing my story with as many people as I can.

With January being over, 2015 is already in full swing.  I love the New Year, and I love creating some space in my life to step back and reevaluate where I am headed.  Truly I believe this 2015 to be a breakout, breakthrough, and life changing year not only for myself, but for so many of the people in my love that I love and for you too!  The best is yet to come, and it is a new day friends ripe and ready for us to go out!  So Let’s Do This!

Now what are some of my 2015 goals?  Well I’m glad you asked:

(If you have 4 more hours, I could go on, and on, and on, and on, but for times sake I’ll stop here!)

For some people making goals is defeating as we think we can just think up goals, and they’ll magically unfold into our lives.  Or if we just pray about it hard enough, God will drop my edited book in my life, with a speaking contract, and my hot new Jesus lovin’ boyfriend right into my lap.  And here’s the reality, God is able.  He can totally do that, and I pray for that, but what I’m coming to learn is that God is a God of process and he works through our movement and obedience.

If we want to see specific, and big things happen in our lives then we get to live a life that reflects an intentional routine that will lead us to those hopes and desires.  Here are a few things I do:

  • Create a Vision:  Simon Sinek says people buy why you do what you do, not what you do.  Meaning there has to be a deeper sense of purpose in our lives as to why we are doing the things we are doing.  Be clear on that vision, and then from that space create goals that reflect your purpose.  Know why you’re doing what you’re doing, and head there on purpose.  Greatness never happens on accident.
  • Get Specific with your goals:  A huge reason why we don’t attain our goals is because they feel so far away from us, like they’re floating around in outer space.  Don’t just say I want to run a marathon this year, when you haven’t ran more than a mile in the last 5 years.  Sign up for one in 6 months.  Give yourself a deadline, and work your way back week by week, and day by day plan, and get specific:
    • Tuesday by 9:00am:  Research 10 marathon plans + choose one.
    • Wednesday by 5:00p.m. run 2 miles.
    • Wednesday by 7:00p.m. eat well balanced dinner.
    • This may seem tedious, but when we break down our goals into everyday manageable tasks it actually sets us up for attainable success.
    • Do it Afraid.  This year choose to say no to fear.  How many things in your life have you not done because you were scared of the failure, hurting yourself, others, what will people think, do I have what it takes?  Or we want God to make it 100% crystal clear that beyond a shadow of a doubt this is our next step.  Again, God is able, and he can do this, but there is something that happens when we acknowledge the fear of failure that it is there, and then choose not to let it stop us from the visions, dreams, and goals God is inviting us into.

To wrap up, last Fall I hosted my first event at New York Fashion Week for 30 influential designers, bloggers, and leaders in the Fashion Industry.  It was on my heart for the better part of a year, but I was riddled with insecurities about it.

My blog isn’t big enough, who will come, what if no one comes, I’m not “cool” enough to pull something like this off, how am I going to pay for this, and the list went on and on.  The fear was so real, but then I got to a point where I said you know what this is something on my heart that I am passionate about and I am just going to do it; it doesn’t matter if one person comes it just matters that I do this thing that God put on my heart to do.

And you know what?

I did it.

With a ton of prayer, planning, and a community of warrior women in 2.5 weeks we pulled off an amazing event at Fashion Week; it was better than I could have hoped or dreamed of and I did it even though I was scared.  I still get emails from women that attended the event asking when the next one will be (this February at Fashion Week!)

Now looking back I can’t imagine not having done it; it doesn’t even seem scary anymore, but it just took that initial step of faith to just do it!  Yesterday’s ceiling is today’s floor friends!

So ladies we have choice, and power to make movement in our lives, to step out boldly in our faith and in the calls that God has put into our lives.  And guess what?  It’s probably going to be scary, but that’s ok!

Create Your Vision.

Be Specific.

Do it Afraid.

Ladies I truly believe God has plans for our lives that our more epic, creative, imaginative than we could ever hope or dream for.  The invitation awaits.

Let’s.  Do.  This.

I love y’all.






Beauty Is…Embracing YOUR Light

January 23, 2015



Photos by:  Kat Harris

Have you ever met somebody, and instantly you knew you were going to be friends?  Last fall I was incredibly blessed to cross paths with Miss Sara ‘Tutti’ de Monte.

Sara is my soul sister.  We’ve danced together, sang together, cried together, snuggled, and I am a continuously challenged to be a more grounded and whole person with the girl in my life.  She lights up the entire New York City with her smile, beautiful soul, and her genuine love for people.

Sara has a passion for women knowing their beauty + one of the ways she expresses that is through her Boudoir Photography….it seemed only fitting then for this installment of Beauty Is that we did a little Boudoir session of our own.

If you don’t know Sara or her work, find her, follow her, and there’s a big chance that you’ll fall in love with her.

I love you Tutti more than you know.  I’m so grateful for your presence in my life + so excited for your journey to unfold!




Embracing Your Light

Through the years as life unfolded, bringing lessons in the form of anecdotes, I slowly discovered my North Star – the light that shines so bright in my heart that it’s impossible to ignore – it’s my personal message of love and truth. It’s the reason I’m here:

I want women across the world to know their value, feel appreciated + spread a message of self-love.

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I’ve been blessed with an insatiable curiosity + desire to connect that makes me talk to strangers on the subway, ask way too many questions to people I’ve just met and spend hours talking to my friends about things you probably wouldn’t spend four minutes on. These are all blessings passed onto me from my darling mother, who hasn’t met a stranger in her life and has taught me that everyone has a story (it always starts like this, with a smile of course, “Where are YOU from?”)


Indirectly, I’ve become passionate about boudoir photography because of her and the women in my life. Femininity, sexiness, intimacy and beauty are all related in that however you feel about one of those is probably exactly how you feel about all the other things. Is that a fair statement?

Growing up in Puerto Rico, where there’s a tangible passion for women + everything that involves being a woman, gave me a solid base of understanding a healthy relationship with your femininity. This, along with the interactions I witnessed between my father and mother, aunts and uncles, grandmother and grandfather, taught me this: women are beautiful! Their beauty should be celebrated, not only by those around them but it should especially be embraced by women themselves. Once a woman is empowered by her own value, there’s a sudden light that follows her. It’s magnetic and liberating! I’m certain you know exactly what I mean.


So what does this have to do with embracing my light?

Well, I’ll tell you.

My light, my purpose in life is to spread this message to women, because I want to live in a world where we lift each other up, learn from each other and celebrate each other. Wouldn’t you? Through boudoir photography, I’m able to connect with women on a deeper-yet-natural level, on a level we should interact with each other regardless of whether there’s a camera present or not. I’ve witnessed women seeing their true beauty for the first time, because they’ve finally been given permission to. 

Wait, what?

Yes, you are beautiful. YOU are beautiful. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL!


Going through this wildly fun experience is just one way of unleashing your femininity + inner vixen. When you willingly put yourself in this light, magic shines through. I’m a firm believer that letting go of insecurities, doubts and what-ifs will give room for light, love and lots and lots of beauty – the natural kind!


I’ll leave you with this thought: 

There’s a light inside of you. What’s its splendor revealing? 

Discover it

Embrace it

Unleash it

Once discovered, embraced + unleashed, beauty will surround your journey.

With love,



January 18, 2015


Yeah dude. It’s a whole new blog!

Thanks for your patience while we get everything locked and loaded.

We are slowly bringing our greatest hits from our old site to here – where it will be easy to find and explore in all of it’s organized beauty thanks to the gals over at blogzilla.

In the meantime all the old stuff is still live here! From this point on we’ll be updating our Tumblr with inspiration and little snippets of life one pic at a time.

With Love,

Em + Kat