Photos c/o: Kat Harris
How did you find The Refined Woman?
I don’t remember the exact moment I found The Refined Woman or the exact moment I followed, but it has been a constant source of open, vulnerable and real conversation in my life ever since. I saw an Instagram post last spring looking for interns. It sounded like the best internship ever, and it is.
What does being “a refined woman” mean to you?
Being a refined woman means loving myself through all of my ups and downs and realizing I am not perfect and that is to be celebrated.
What’s an area in which you’d like to grow this coming year?
I want to write more for me. I write plenty for various assignments but I want to make sure I start setting aside time to focus on my own thoughts.
What does legacy mean to you?
To me, legacy is less about what I’m remembered for and more about the impact I have in the lives of others. I hope my legacy is a feeling of being cared about.
Which three pieces of advice would you tell your younger self?
- Believe in yourself. Don’t rely on others to tell you that you are good enough; know it.
- Take more risks. Don’t let life happen around you.
- Stop trying to please others. Live your life for yourself.
Who is a real life hero for you? Give us a few sentences why.
My mother has always been my hero and best friend. Her love for her family is something I appreciate endlessly and she never has a bad word to say about anyone. She also is unapologetically herself. She knows when she needs to shut out the world and take a nap. Basically, she is everything I aspire to be.
My dad is also my hero for many reasons, one of them being that as he was reading what I wrote about my mother I guarantee he was beaming and not for one second thinking ‘why didn’t she choose me?’
What’s your idea of fun on a Friday night?
Laughing. Whether that’s because of friends, family, or a movie.
What was the last TV show you binge-watched?
This is tough to answer, mostly because I watch a lot of Netflix, but also because Netflix choices reveal a lot about a person. I recently binge-watched The Crazy Ones again on Netflix. It was one of Robin Williams’s final acting credits.
If you could live anywhere, where would it be and why?
Nantucket has been my happy place for as long as I’ve been visiting. There’s something so special about the atmosphere that it feels like I’m home whenever I’m there.
What is your go-to karaoke song?
I’m not fond of singing publicly so I tend to avoid karaoke but I have a hard time not singing along to every Sara Bareilles song I hear.
Guilty pleasures… Go:
Spending a whole day wearing pajamas and watching Netflix, eating fries as a meal, buying myself men’s clothes when they look comfy.